• Alicia Marie

Forgiveness as an awakening

So much of the pain we seek to heal in our ourselves and our lives comes down to being able to first forgive ourselves - and then others. This, I feel is the roadmap to experiencing true forgiveness.

However simple this may sound, it's not an easy process. It doesn't just happen because you tell me that you’ve already done that. Often times, you have to do it over and over again.

Many of us carry some kind of pain inside. It can be hard to touch it because we build walls to protect it; we had to do this at some point in order to survive.

When I speak to people about what’s troubling them in their lives or relationships, I notice there are these reoccurring themes that we return to over and over. This means some aspect of our energy is stuck there. Maybe you replay your last conversation with a loved one? Maybe you recall something demeaning that someone said to you, or the critical voices of your parents, Maybe there was a time you felt alone, scared, or unloveable? Whatever it is, your task is to identify and get to know it. This will lead you to that place inside which most longs to be healed in order to be fully present; remember: you can’t be truly be present if you’re still looking through the lens of your past.

I propose to anyone reading this that a way for to explore the process of forgiving is by writing letters of forgiveness to those who have affected our lives.

There are multiple parts to this process. This work is a ”devotional” attempt to understand these different parts. It is devotional because this, in part, is the purpose of the article and Memoirs of forgiveness; to serve as a collective prayer of forgiveness. This is your invitation to enter into a dialogue with your self that is rooted beyond the ordinary, and anchored in the sacred.


We begin to notice what repeats itself and take accountability for our part. We can't experience true forgiveness until this happens. Without this step, we continue to blame others. There can't be true forgiveness where there is still blame. I don’t want to over simplify this process. I fully recognize that there are situations where we have been innocent to our trauma. There are many layers to this topic but all of them will eventually lead back to the theme of compassion.

~Compassion. “There is a quote a Buddhist quote that says "compassion is the flower and forgiveness is the fragrance of it's blossoming"

When we are able to understand the pain and shadow inside ourselves, we can have empathy for the pain and shadow inside others. When we’re able to see how our own pain body inflicts pain on others, we are able to better understand how it could also have been done to us. When this happens we begin to feel a sincere desire to be forgiven and then to forgive.

This process of understanding others through honestly observing ourselves is what seeds the roots of compassion.

The unending integration of forgiveness initiates deep ancestral healing. Cleansing the soul and ultimately filling our DNA with light. This process is something we return to over and over again as we learn to track our thoughts.

How we choose to live effects all the beings that have crossed our path. When we have cleared our karma with someone light fills the stream that passes between us and into the infinite.

This healing spreads… It spreads from you to the one who hurt you onto the ones that hurt the one that you and so on. This is ancestral healing.

Forgiveness is born through understanding the true depth of compassion, and it is the catalyst of grace. ….